You are Worthy of Love

A lot of us (myself included) have been caught up in the idea that our worth is tied up in our relationship status- that being single is not okay. I recently met with relationship expert Annie Lavine to talk about why being single is a great way for you to grow. There is so much work that can be done to reflect on the internal love that is always available to us. Once you find that love, the possibilities are endless. 

Being Single

People often don’t realize the power that can be found in being with yourself. The age old quote, “You can’t love someone else unless you love yourself” has a lot of truth in it. Society does a great job of glamourising intimate relationships- so much so we find ourselves trying to rush into one for the wrong reasons. But why? Oftentimes it’s because we are looking for love outside of ourselves. 

But what if we looked for love inside instead?

A lot of individuals come to coaching blaming themselves for their relationships not working out as planned. Many times it’s because they didn’t lay a foundation of love for themselves. Although intimate relationships seem incredibly important, there’s one person that you need to form a real connection with first- yourself! Make sure that before you find love externally, that your internal connection is already made. How do you show yourself love and kindness?

Top Tips

After you have put in the work to find yourself, you might feel ready to take the leap and start looking for a partner! Annie gave us the top most important tips to remember while dating online and in person.

• Get to know yourself 

This means understand who you are, what you need to be happy, and being able to know that you have love available at all times internally. Do that work before finding someone else.

• Know what you need

Don’t expect someone new to figure you out instantly. Identify what you need in your life to be happy and what you need in a relationship to be happy. No one can do that for you-you have to figure it out yourself. (And then communicate it to a partner!)

• Be okay with rejection

This goes without being said, but you are worthy. You always have been and always will be. If a relationship doesn’t go anywhere, there is a reason for it. You are still worthy of love, like you always have been.

• Know your intention in online dating

And make it known! This goes hand in hand with knowing what you need. What kind of person are you looking for? What do you need?

• There is nothing wrong with you

And believe it!! Because there isn’t. Be confident in yourself, because what makes you unique is the best part. Bring compassion.

Best,

Claire

P.S. If you loved these tips, check out our podcast episode HERE!