Why Your Inner Critic Is Not The Enemy

“When you build up your self worth and resilience, and you’re in control NOT the inner critic, you have so much more freedom and energy.”

I remember having this realization after working in Australia. 

I was working 10-12 hours a day in a factory packing fruit. Every day was the exact same- a silent warehouse, the same motions, the same feeling. I was left alone with just my thoughts for hours and days on end. Those thoughts were debilitating.

It was after a few weeks that sent me spiraling into depression that I finally decided to get help. That was when I discovered the inner critic.

What is the inner critic? 

The inner critic is that negative, internal running commentary in your mind. It’s made up of all of the judgement (or perceived judgements) that was internalized to be true. It is driven by fear and it’s rooted in shame and worry.

My inner critic was eating away at my place of rejection. In those days at the factory, I was receiving thoughts like, “You are good enough.” “No one likes you.” “You don’t deserve happiness.”. My inner critic was digging into my memories and moments in life and taking advantage of the feelings I attached to them.

“It’s not what happens to us in life, it's the meaning we give to it.”

It was time to stop letting my inner critic have a hold on me. I stopped attaching meaning to moments. If I was overlooked for a position it was no longer because I wasn’t good enough, it’s because there was something better for me out there. If I was rejected, it wasn’t because I didn’t deserve it, it just wasn’t my time yet.

Instead of trying to ignore my inner critic, I reassured her that I was okay. Your inner critic is good at it’s core. It is meant to try and protect you from feeling any more psychological damage.

In order to make our inner critic work with us, we can follow these steps:

1. Be aware. You can’t change what you’re not aware of.

2. Meet your inner critic and reassure it that there is nothing to be scared of

3. Say goodbye to self doubt and self judgement and say hello to self awareness.

4. Try an EFT (trust me! These are awesome! You can go to Youtube and type in “Inner child EFT” or Feeling Unlovable EFT). 5. Catch it, Challenge it, and Change it. Catch the inner critics thought, challenge it as to why it’s wrong, and change it to a self aware idea.

This won’t happen overnight.

It can take a long time to get in touch with your inner critic and make these big changes, but I encourage you to stick with it. Continue on the journey to becoming aware and silencing the negativity. Once you do it is truly life changing.

If you want help on your journey, I am one step away! I am offering two incredible ways to work with me in 2022. Check out the Master Your Mindset Course and the Master Your Mindset MiniMind!

When you build up your self worth and resilience, you’ll have so much more freedom and energy.

Best,

Claire