Feeling Your Feelings For More Freedom

Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today we are building your core- and not at the gym! We are building your emotional core.

This episode is packed full of tips, recommended reads, and my best advice to harness the power of your emotions. Being able to master your emotions is life changing and learning to reconnect with them will lead you to a life of happiness and joy. Get out a notepad because you’ll want to jot down these notes on how to get out of your own way.

This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.

Unlearn the Inner Critic [01:15]

• “How do you think reaching your goal will make you feel? It’s not the goal you want, it’s the emotion.” [01:50]
• “A lot of inner chaos comes from internal emotions.” [2:20]
• “50% of people’s success comes down to their emotional intelligence- their EQ not their IQ.” [2:40]
• “We are born innately knowing that our emotions are important because our emotions help us get our needs met.” [4:15]
• “Emotions end. The feelings come up, it happens, and then it leaves again.” [6:00]
• “We don’t attach feelings to emotions like hunger. We just take action on it. Emotions like tired we attach to stories like, “work is so stressful”, “I can’t be bothered”, “I can’t believe it’s not Friday”, feeding the emotion instead of just getting more sleep the next night or taking a nap.” [7:45]
• “When we attach meaning to emotions, today’s emotions become a predictable tomorrow.” [8:40]
• “When we suppress our emotions, it lowers our confidence because it drowns out our wisdom.” [10:00]
• “Minimizing some emotions, minimizes ALL emotions.” [10:45]
• “I feel happiness and joy and love so much better than what I did before when I suppressed my emotions.” [11:00]
• “In coaching, I find it’s one emotion that hasn’t been recognized or responded to that causes the clients stress. It’s not the event on the outside or the meaning they’re attaching to it- it’s the struggle to get to the primary emotion.” [12:35]
• “Emotional mastery is about getting our emotions to serve us-it is regaining control of your life by building a strong and healthy emotional core.” [13:00]
• “Overwhelm can be helped with prioritizing what needs to be done and letting go of the rest. Once that happens, the feeling of overwhelm can pass through.” [15:10]
• “Your emotions are an internal compass and they’re always guiding you back to wellbeing.” [16:35]
• “What you focus on, you feel.”  [17:40]
• “Other people's emotions are their emotions.” [18:00]
• “It’s important to learn how to observe, not absorb. Other’s emotions are not your emotions to feel or process.” [19:40]
• “Check in with your body for the emotion and sensation- you can Google Wheel of Emotions to help you identify what you are feeling-not what your brain is telling you to feel.” [21:45]
• “The better you get at feeling your emotions in the present, the more that you will integrate the unresolved emotions of the past.” [23:10]

Steps to building your emotional core [23:15]

• “Step 1: Identify your emotions.” [23:50]
• “Step 2: Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions.” [24:30]
• “Step 3: Get curious.” [25:05]
• “Step 4: Take action.” [26:00]
• “Start a daily practice to check in with yourself and your emotions.” [27:00]

Books + Recommendations [28:20]

• The Body Keeps the Score Bessel van der Kolk [28:20]
• Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself Joe Dispenza [28:35]
• The Presence Process Michael Brown [29:05]
• Emotional Freedom Tapping(EFT) [29:30]