The Truth About Trauma (and why nobody can go through life avoiding it)
Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today is episode 1 of a three part series that focuses in on trauma.
In today's episode, we take a deep dive into the truth about trauma. We are taking a magnifying glass to the different types of trauma, including childhood trauma. By the end of this podcast, you will know exactly what trauma is and be able to identify the eight signs of unhealed trauma. This isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.
You are NOT your Trauma [02:50]
- “Diving into trama has been unbelievable, not just for my own healing, but in my coaching, I started to see profound transformations with clients.” [04:15]
- “Therapy focuses on the past, whereas coaching is future focused.” [05:30]
- “The third pillar of my coaching is consistent happiness, not happiness all of the time, because that's not realistic, but your default mode, making sure your day to day experience of life is a good one.” [06:05]
- “Information gives us hit of dopamine. It's a temporary relief. It makes us feel good. Transformation comes from implementation.” [07:00]
- “Trauma originally was the Greek word for wound- and that's exactly what trauma is.” [7:45]
- “Stop asking, ‘what's wrong with me? Why am I like this? Why can't I be like somebody else?’ Because trauma is not what happened to you. It's how your body copes with that stress.”[11:20]
- “The more I understood, the more aware I was of what was going on inside of my mind, inside of my body, my nervous system, the more empowered I was.”[12:10]
- “We don't say people with broken bones have a broken bone disorder. If you have an emotional wound or a psychological wound, you do not have a disorder, you're simply hurt by what has happened.”[12:40]
- “This is what I mean by people saying nothing traumatic happened to me. It is not what happened to you- it is what is going on inside of your body. Some people will fall in their bone, won't break. Other people will have a tiny trip and their bone would break.” [15:10]
- “If your parents didn't learn how to respond to emotions during their own childhood, then it's not possible for them to pass that on to you.” [16:20]
- “Feelings are just feedback.” [17:30]
- “I am very, very careful about what I watch on social media, and even TV shows. I know what I'm putting into my body, not just food, but information, images, all of those things, has a profound effect on your wellbeing.” [20:40]
- “Trauma teaches you to close your heart and armor up healing teaches you to open your heart and boundary up.” [24:15]
- “Your issues are in your tissues. So when you don't process your emotions, your stress response, all of that, it becomes stored in your body.” [25:30]
- “In order for us to heal it, we have to feel it. When it’s stored in our body and we haven't processed it, we become so backed up with unprocessed trauma, that the smallest things can seem life-threatening.” [26:10]
- “In order to heal the psychological and emotional trauma, just like healing a bone, it takes time and it takes resting.” [27:50]
- “The last part of healing trauma is rebuilding your ability to trust other people.” [28:45]
- “The biggest thing about trauma is it leaves us feeling overwhelmed, and it also leaves us feeling isolated.” [32:50]
- “We can't change the past. We can't change what has happened. We can only change the meaning that we give it.” [34:50]
Book Recommendations:
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
- What Happened to you? By Bruce B. Perry
Work with Claire:
https://www.clairefealy.com/master-your-mindset
https://www.clairefealy.com/mindsetmasteryminimind
