Getting Covid and Why Toxic Positivity Doesn’t Work (how to stay positive when shit happens)
Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!
In today’s episode we are decoding toxic positivity and why it doesn’t work. We are going to talk about how to handle life when things go to crap (even when you get Covid) and supply you with practical strategies to use. At the end of the episode, I am going to answer a few questions from listeners about guilt, healing, and regret- remember that you have to feel it to heal it.
But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.
What is Toxic Positivity? [02:00]
- “Toxic positive is when we dismiss our emotions and try to just focus on the positives.” [05:50]
- “When we suppress those organic, natural emotions, we are creating a lot of problems for ourselves. Those unprocessed emotions turn toxic.” [06:00]
- “We go to our head because it’s safer and escape from our bodies. We escape to social media, overworking, let people treat us like crap so that we can escape from the unprocessed emotions of our past.” [09:00]
- “Allow it and feel it, but don’t wallow in it.” [09:30]
5 Practical Steps for Protecting your Peace [10:40]
- “Step 1: Acknowledge and Appreciate your Feelings. Feelings are just feedback and feelings in your body.” [10:40]
- “I had to acknowledge that I was feeling lonely, that I was disappointed, and that I was really, really scared. But a huge part of acknowledging and appreciating your emotions is compassion. It was important to be kind to myself so I could feel and heal.” [12:20]
- “Step 2: Remind yourself that your problems are never permanent or personal.“[15:00]
- “I’m not going to feel this way forever. Feelings come to end and pass.” [16:10]
- “If getting sick was here to help me, how would it be helping me? It encouraged me to really take my health seriously. If getting sick was here to help me, how would it be helping me? It reminded me that I need to slow down and work on my work life balance.” [17:00]
- “Step 3: Meditation. Be aware of the stories you’re telling yourself.“[19:40]
- “Meditation helps to ground and balance you. Take the first 15 minutes of your day to focus on your breath and connect to your higher self.”[21:00]
- “Step 4: Get outside and move. Get out of your head, into your body, and move! It increases your endorphins.” [24:15]
- “Emotions are energy. When you get up and move, you move that energy. When you stay on the couch all day, those emotions stay stagnant.” [25:00]
- “Step 5: Connect and Get Support. When we have trauma we lose trust in ourselves and in others. You’re full of fear. Let love in and let that support in.” [26:00]
Q + A [32:00]
- “How do I stop reliving the past, and heal from relationship issues? What could have been done differently?”
- “How can I heal old wounds of not feeling good enough?”
- “How do I get rid of guilt?”
Work with Claire:
https://www.clairefealy.com/master-your-mindset
https://www.clairefealy.com/mindsetmasteryminimind
