Break Free From Fear (especially fear of judgement and rejection)
Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy!
This week we are diving into fear! I want to talk about what is fear, the difference between healthy and unhealthy fear, and signs that you are living in fear. I will also be giving you practical steps to overcome the fear that you can put into practice today! I will also be suggesting four amazing book reads at the end!
But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.
Fear [5:00]
- “A lot of times the only reason why we fear what people think is that we have put other people above us and it is a sneaky sign of low self-worth” [5:10]
- Quote Share: “Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgment that something is else is more important than fear” -Ambrose Redmoon [6:20]
- “The biggest mistake people make is to think once I am confident enough then I will take action, and it is actually the other way around” [7:40]
- “Fear and excitement have the same physiological reaction in your body” [9:05]
- “Fear is the word that we use to describe our emotional reaction to something that seems dangerous, and the danger does not have to be real and can be perceived”[9:20]
- “The main purpose of fear is to get us out of danger so that we can fight or flee”[10:30]
- “The more comfortable you can get with discomfort, the more comfortable you can get with fear, the more freedom you will have” [10:55]
- “If we are not regulating our emotions and inner world, fear will keep you locked in the prison of your comfort zone” [11:55]
- “The effect of fear on your mind” [12:45]
- “Overcoming fear is about going from living in your head to connecting with your heart” [13:45]
- “If I asked you to sit in silence” [14:10]
- “Fear turns us into people pleasers” [16:05]
- “We need to separate what's real from what is just my brain and body being on autopilot [17:05]
Healthy and Unhealthy Fear [17:30]
- Quote Share:“Babies are born with two fears” [17:40]
- “The earlier you were judged and rejected the more painful it is” [18:15]
- “Fear is a practical organic human emotion”[18:40]
- “Learned fear” [19:10]
- “The size of your comfort zone is proportionate to the size of your life” [19:25]
- “Feel the fear and do it anyway” [19:45]
- “The opposite of healthy fear is hypervigilance” [20:00]
- “I find that a lot of times it comes from low-level stress” [20:40]
- “Danger is real, fear is not” [21:10]
- “The Seven Why’s” [21:25]
- “We don't need everyone to like us to thrive”[23:55]
4 Signs That You Are Living in Fear [24:15]
- "Perfectionism: Mask’s that we wear to protect ourselves” [24:20]
- “Settling: I value comfort and security more than I value..” [26:15]
- “Procrastination: Delay tactic for those living in fear” [27:10]
- “ Numbing: “The need of needing to numb through..” [28:00]
10 Steps for Overcoming Fear [30:00]
- “Get to the root of your fear” [30:05]
- “Remind yourself of your worth” [31:15]
- “If somebody treats you badly, there is something wrong with them not you” [31:55]
- “Start to choose who you spend your time with and how you spend your time” [33:20]
- “Make it okay for other people to have opinions of you” [34:40]
- “Look for the best in others”[36:55]
- “Check how much you are judging yourself” [38:10]
- “Take action: Implementation is transformation ”[41:45]
- “Never put people in pits or a pedestal”[43:40]
- “Zoom Out” [45:15]
Book Recommendations:
The Courage to be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi
The Gift of Imperfection - Brene Brown
You are a Bad Ass- Jen Sincero
Untamed- Glennon Doyle
