Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! 

In today’s episode, I want to discuss a message I received, where the criticism comes from, and why you shouldn’t fear it. I share 4 practical strategies that you can use to build your confidence, resilience, and inner strength. 

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

Reflection on January [5:20]

• I do not believe in failure I believe in feedback [7:30]
• I have learned to separate my self-worth from my net worth [7:40]
• How much I didn't bring in is not  a reflection of how hard I have worked [8:10]
• Wealth is only one form of abundance [9:00]
• I decided that 2022 was going to be the year that I put my health, happiness, and healing first [10:25]
• Zoom out and look at the bigger picture [12:30]
• For me, fun and fulfillment over finances. Trust that the finances will follow [13:30]
• Celebrate the not so obvious wins [15:20]

The Message [16:20]

• The message, she started with “hi, love” [17:20]
• My initial reaction was panic and, straight away, I reached out to two experts in trauma. [19:30]
• Criticism is often someone else’s perspective and a lot of times it is someone else’s pain [22:25]
•  I sat with myself and checked in with myself so that I was replying in a place of love and compassion rather than my ego [23:10]
• The most dangerous healers out there are people who haven't healed themselves [24:40]
• I struggled and suffered in silence for a very long time and I had such shame around my inner world about what was going on- I was addicted to escapism [30:20]
• Information empowers people[30:55]
• What we worked on was changing the meaning [34:00]
• Just because someone else's trauma is "worse than yours" and "more awful" does not mean that your pain is any less important [35:50]
• What I will say about criticism is that it is  much easier to scroll social media and criticize other people than it is to sit with your wounds and heal them- I am speaking from experience [36:00]
• You don’t have to go through life triggered at every turn [37:05]
• I am so so grateful for her message yesterday because it made me realize that I have surrounded myself with such strong women [37:45]
• I am so grateful for that message because it helped me heal a little bit more of my own fear of rejection and criticism [38:25]

Four Practical Steps in Being Grounded in Who You Are [42:00]

Get to know yourself [42:00] 

• Daily Journaling
• Meditating
• Identifying Core Values

Listen to and read people who aren't afraid of failure [46:10] 

• Untamed by Glennon Doyle 
• The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown

Give yourself permission to be wrong, to fail, to be imperfect, to be disliked [47:05] 

• Life is not meant to be endured it is meant to be enjoyed 
• Allow yourself to be wrong
• It is their free will to have an opinion

Focus on Progress over perfection [48:45] 

• Set the bar so low that you just have to step over it
• Celebrate every tiny win 
• Compassion will keep you a lot more consistent than criticism ever will 

Q & A

How do I accept praise?  [49:20]

How do you get past the feeling of failure of not meeting your weekly goals? [53:10]

Top tips for keeping energy consistent? [54:25]

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