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Top 10 Strategies to Overcome Self-Doubt and get Unstuck

Season #1 Episode #21

Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! 

In today’s episode we are taking a closer look at self doubt. Self doubt is not a “You” problem- we all deal with it.  I am giving you 3 signs that self doubt could be holding you back, 10 tips for overcoming it, and a few journal prompts you can start using today!

But, this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea, and welcome to another episode of OUR podcast.

What is Self-Doubt? [0:00]

  • [2:50] Self doubt is the anchor that keeps your ship from sailing.
  • [3:30] We all have self doubt. Self doubt isn’t the problem- it’s your relationship with self doubt. 
  • [4:30] Make your dreams bigger than your doubts.

3 Signs that Self Doubt is Holding You Back [8:00]

  • [9:30] The first sign: You worry about things you can’t control.
  • [10:00] The more fear you have, the more you try to control your future. You have to make peace with not being in control.
  • [12:30] The second sign: Procrastination
  • [13:00] Self doubt and procrastination go hand in hand- it all comes from that feeling of not being good enough. 
  • [14:30] The third sign: You care more about what others think than you care about yourself.
  • [15:10] No amount of external validation or putting others first could compensate for self worth, self love, self acceptance or self compassion.
  • [21:30] Women associate success with more negative consequences than men.

Top Tips to Overcome Self Doubt [23:30]

  • [24:30] #1 I identified my core values. When we don’t know who we are, we allow ourselves to be defined by others.
  • [27:00] #2 Identify your limiting beliefs. Your beliefs drive you thoughts. Your thoughts drive your emotions. Your emotions drive your actions. Your actions drive your behaviors.
  • [27:30] #3 Inner child healing. Self doubt is a sign of fear. A lot of times, it’s the fear our inner child has.
  • [29:00] #4 I detached my worth from approval, appearance, and achievements. 
  • [30:00] #5 Stop comparing yourself to strangers on the internet. Social media is one of the biggest killers of confidence because we’re comparing our messy behind the scenes to everyone's highlight reel.
  • [31:00] #6 Detach and diffuse from your thoughts: Catch, challenge, and change them.
  • [31:40] Give me a better thought!
  • [32:30] #7 Action alleviates anxiety. Do not try to think your way into the perfect decision. There is no right or wrong decision- just a decision. 
  • [33:00]Decisiveness is an outcome of confidence. Start making more decisions and take action. 
  • [34:00] #8 Trust the universe. Trust that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be and that you’re being guided and supported. Faith over fear.
  • [35:00] #9 Build a toolbox with resources for yourself. Learn how to stop the spiral before you get into the spiral. In my tool box is to listen to a good podcast or Disney playlist, EFT, journaling, reaching out to a friend. 
  • [36:00] #10 Daily nervous system regulation. Our mind is controlled by our nervous system. Regulate your system with daily meditation, breathwork, movement, and mindset work(like listening to a podcast or reading).
  • [37:30] Excessive self doubt comes from excessive fear. 
  • [38:00] Self doubt is normal- we all have it! The only time it’s a problem is when we let it control us.
  • [39:30] Learn to love all parts of yourself.

Journal prompts [40:00]

  • What would your life look like with less self doubt?
  • If you got to turn the notch on your confidence from a 2 to a 7 or 8, how different would your life look? How different would you think, act, or feel?

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